A new story from The Hero’s Journey for The Daily ZU – read the full story at www.thedailyzu.com.
Take a holograph, or a mirror. Any hologram contains all the information needed to represent the whole. I look into a fragment of a shattered mirror, and I can see my whole reflection.
The truth is holographic. What that means to me is that if I could live any one part of truth, I could live it all. If I could love one person perfectly… If I could forgive just one person completely… If I could be wholly honest with myself for one moment… You get the picture.
It’s been said that a book of great truth is also holographic, in that it says the same things over and over again. You read one part of it, and it’s like reading all of it.
One of the many emanations along the infinite spectrum in which truth expresses itself is through surrender. If I could relinquish control completely, I would experience perfect peace. It’s in the moment that I surrender my desire to manage the world, that the world ceases managing me.
It just seems that one of the biggest lessons we’re sometimes forced to learn on planet Gaia is that we’re not in control. I’ve seen it expressed in all kinds of situations in my own life. I’ve seen others have to learn that lesson, too. It starts the moment we are born, a process we have no control over. It continues with our infancy and childhood, when we’re completely dependent on others. It continues throughout the different seasons of our lives, and culminates in old age, which has been called the second childhood, when we we’re forced to relinquish everything. We have no control over the fact of our dying, and so we leave this world as we came into it. The Vikings called it wyrd, their word for fate. The Romans had a saying about it: The fates lead whom they may, but drag whom they must.
This whole virus thing is a vast lesson of not being in control, for me, and I suspect for many others. I’m not in control. No one is. Probably for the first time in history, every one of us on the planet is faced with the loss of control over so many aspects of our lives, from our medical fate, to our economic fate to the fate of our most intimate relationships. Still, I have a choice: I can go along with these outcomes, or I can fight them.
I know I’m fighting them when I’m blaming other people or institutions for the pandemic. I know I’m fighting when I’m afraid. I know I’m fighting when I’m trying to control my 92 year-old mother from 1,700 miles away.
Why is it so important that I relinquish control? Because it’s only then that I can experience peace. My ego tells me that I can only have peace on my terms. It tries to convince me that once I have control of my externals – others, my own body, the world – then I’ll be at peace. So like most people, I spend much of my life trying to fix the outside, believing that I’ll be at peace once I have everything outside my skin exactly to my liking.
My experience informs me that the opposite is true: that it’s much easier to adjust my attitude to accept conditions as they are, than to change conditions. Since my attitude (my reactions) are the one thing I always have control over, it’s much simpler and much more realistic to change that than it is to try and change the world, especially with everyone and everything competing against me to remodel the world to their own specifications.
And there may be another reason why I’m not king of the world. Because it would defeat the purpose of my existence here. If I drove down the street, and all the lights were green, life would be easy, but boring. If I knew everything that was going to happen before it happened, or if I knew that there’d be no problems, no challenges. no risks to the day when I woke up in the morning, it would defeat the purpose of my life.
I build muscle to the precise extent that I push up against something. I develop persistence and endurance only through the long distance journey. I achieve adaptability and resilience only by climbing the mountain. That’s what evolution is: a response to change, an adaptation to adversity. All of this requires me not being in control. It’s the only way I can learn. It’s the only way I change.